Your wedding day may be something that you have planned for since you were a little girl, but it is probably something new to your husband to be. While you enjoy looking at different flower arrangements and debating the colors of the bridesmaids’ dresses, your groom might rather be having a root canal. The problem is that if you do not involve your groom in the decision making process you are going to have a hard time planning the wedding and making it something that both of you can enjoy. There are several reasons that you need to keep your husband to be in the loop about your wedding choices.
His Opinion Matters
First and foremost, you need to remember that his opinion matters. The wedding industry is often targeted towards a female audience, but there are always two parties in every wedding ceremony. The last thing that you want on your wedding day is some resentment because he does not like the menu that you picked or the flowers that you chose. Sometimes you need to be very proactive to get your groom involved in the planning process, but it is important that his voice be heard. When he makes suggestions, be sure to listen and try to keep him as involved as possible in every aspect of the event.
You Need Help
Your groom may claim that he does not care about the wedding ceremony or the reception, and he might be telling the truth, content to let you have the whole thing planned the way that you have it in your mind. Even then, your groom needs to be involved in the wedding planning process. There are so many vendors to talk to, and so many things to keep track of that if you try to do it all by yourself, you are going to be overwhelmed and succumb to the stress. This will put a strain on your relationship and it is not good for you or your future husband. Take some of the tasks that need to be done and divide them up between the two of you. Your groom should be willing to shoulder some of the responsibility for the wedding, and if he is not, then you have deeper problems than planning the wedding. Ask for help early and keep the lines of communication open during your wedding planning and you will both be happier.
It Needs To Be About Both Of You
Finally, the wedding ceremony and the reception needs to be about the two of you and celebrating the life that you are going to share together. If you plan the wedding only according to your tastes, then it is not a celebration of the both of you, it is a celebration of yourself. It is ok to be a little forceful and to push for your future husband to make some decisions about the wedding planning. This is a day that he will remember for the rest of his life as well, and you want to make sure that the wedding day is something worth remembering. When you sit down and make him become more active in the wedding planning, he will eventually warm up to the planning and even take some pleasure in it. This will let his personality shine through and give your wedding the kind of feeling it should have.
Getting a groom to become involved in wedding planning is sometimes like pulling teeth, but you need to make sure that he is actively involved in the entire process. When your groom gets involved he will help to take some of the pressure off of you and his personality will shine through the ceremony and the reception.
I am Brooke Mayes, and I wrote this article after struggling to get my fiancé to help make decisions about our wedding last year. He was totally disinterested in the process and I got very frustrated by his lack of input. I suggested that we attend the Minneapolis wedding expo as a way to make some decisions about our wedding. Once he saw how complicated the wedding planning was and understood how hard I was working to put it all together, he became much more involved. I highly recommend going to www.twincitybridal.com to find out about the next Minneapolis wedding expo and I suggest bringing your fiancé along as well.